Shirley Smith & Associates

Over the years, many people have asked me why our programs are so transformational and produce lasting change as well. I believe the answer is because we combine spiritual principles with psychotherapy, and we present our programs using these methods in a practical way.  

I have decided to dedicate the following blogs to the key spiritual principles we use in our programs. Having understanding of these principles will ensure your success in creating lasting change and personal transformation in any area of your life.

By embracing each principle, you will become more authentic, which will lead you to make the choices and changes that bring the most happiness. What a great way to begin 2014!

I invite you to come with me on a 12-week journey, where you will discover these Spiritual Principles and how you may best use them in your life. Watch the 4 min video below.

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Break the Cycle and Gain Control of Your Life

Do you know someone you’d consider to be a “control freak”? Or maybe even you have been accused of being one yourself! Before you become too harsh with judgements regarding control, you might take into account that people can become “control freaks” because they have experienced negative consequences from someone who is “out of control” in some aspect of their lives.

Whether one is “out of control” or “overly controlling”, imbalanced issues of control can negatively affect our relationships and our lives.

Would you like an antidote to negative control? One which lets “control” become a positive force in your life?

If so, then watch the short video below to discover the spiritual principle that shows you how to let go of negative control and replace it with positive self-control.

Warmly,

Shirley

Perfectionism is a stressful disorder driven and fuelled by shame. And to make matters worse, being “perfect” is a societally accepted cover up from the dis-ease of buried, toxic shame.

I can confidently make these strong statements because I have over 25 years of experience working with people’s shame and issues of perfectionism. Sadly, I have seen, time and time again, the negative impact of shame and perfectionism playing out in peoples lives.

The antidote for shame, whether driven by perfectionism or not, is also a key ingredient to living from a spiritual centre. Why, because this important principle is closely connected to acceptance, serenity and the gateway to discovering a conscious contact with a power greater than yourself.

If you’d like to be free from perfectionism or shame, then watch this short video to discover the spiritual principle that will help you gain freedom from these two debilitating conditions.

Warmly,

Shirley

Have you ever fallen in love with a possibility? Think beyond a lover to your job, a new friend or even your child.

Is there someone who you are hoping will change? Well, if you’re human you probably answered yes!

What if another’s behaviour is unacceptable? Is it possible to accept the unacceptable?

Maybe you’re just tired of pushing, forcing or fighting with another or even with yourself?

Practicing this next spiritual principle can eliminate all of the above but just like anything worthwhile you’ll need to participate and practice this principle. The energy you’ll save from trying to persuade or manipulate another to change will make this a walk in the park.

Warning: Spiritual Principle #3 can cause confusion. And sometimes people use their confusion about this principle to not practice it. Why? Because confusion doesn’t change anything and then one wouldn’t have to make a decision for a significant change.

If you’d like to be free from the time consuming addiction of getting another to change, then watch this short video to discover the spiritual principle that will clear up confusion and help you make decisions that give you peace of mind.

Warmly,

Shirley

In my late twenties I attended a 3-day personal development training when it was suggested to me that I was a victim! I was a bit taken back being a single mother who prided herself on being fierce and very independent.  Although at times I felt helpless in financial matters, I couldn’t identify any victim behaviour. 

As the training progressed, I soon discovered that victimisation goes beyond behaviour. Our thoughts and feelings can be stifle us, creating what I call the ‘V-Virus’. Victimisation is like a virus, starting in one part of our life and then spreading to others. It’s infectious!

You don’t have to be fierce to be powerful. In fact, people in 12 step programs know that admitting you are powerless over a condition or certain behaviour is a way to tap in to your authentic power. It opens the door to much better outcomes because through your powerlessness you learn to get out of your own way.

If you are ready to give up feeling helpless or playing the victim (even a little), then watch this short video to discover the spiritual principle that will give you freedom from these conditions.

Warmly,

Shirley

The Antidote to Disbelief 

For eons, motivational teachers have taught that belief is the key to success.

“It’s done unto you as you believe” is the invisible ‘secret’ to success taught by many spiritual masters. This principle is often the only difference between success and failure. For eons, motivational teachers have taught that belief is the key to success.

On the other end of the spectrum, disbelief is just about as bad as having no hope. Both conditions cause misery and eventually depression. Having the antidote to disbelief is like having an anti snake venom in your medicine cabinet.  You never know when the ‘disbelief’ creature will attack you.

Do you have a dream or a goal that isn’t quite happening? Perhaps you’d like to have more belief in yourself or maybe that something was possible for YOU?

If you’re ready to give up disbelief, then watch this short video to discover the spiritual principle that will start you on the road to success.

Warmly,

Shirley

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It’s frustrating to feel stuck and sometimes it’s part of the human condition. If you leave it too long, immobility can turn into depression.

There are reasons people stay stuck.  In fact, people reap “payoffs” and “benefits” for keeping the “status quo”. Maybe they don’t have to experience failure. For some that’s a great benefit.  Perhaps they don’t know “what” to do and their payoff is not being exposed. Usually when the “cost’ becomes too painful, people will give up their limiting “payoffs” and “benefits”. They then become willing to do things differently.

Last week we learned that cultivating faith is the first step to realising your dreams and goals. A great spiritual truth is “faith without works is dead”.

If you want to super charge your faith and move towards your dreams and goals, then watch this short video to lean about the spiritual principle that prevents depression and will make you feel fantastic!

Warmly,

Shirley

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